Each person has his or hers unique writing process. Authors must lern to honor their process and not try to fit into some formula. Writing is both left and right brained and cannot be formulaic, nor should it be if it's to be great writing.
In dealing with my own healing from abuse, I chose kindness as my avenue to heal. I believed that when being kind, to myself or to others, I would have to drop the pain and suffering, the anger and resentment, the grudges and judgments. I discovered that it was true, that anger dissipated, that resentment turned to compassion, that grudges seemed pointless, and judging others or myself was difficult to continue because I was busy finding ways to be kind.
The effects of abuse are far reaching and pervasive. Abuse takes many forms such as in verbal abuse from others including bullying, and the verbal abuse we heap on ourselves. It is in the form of emotional and mental abuse, neglect from parents or spouse. It is, of course, sexual and physical abuse. Also, elders are an increasing population who are experiencing verbal abuse, neglect, physical abuse and even sexual abuse.